Here are a few things that many people say you don't need. We found that we did, and we were glad we got them.
To this day, my daughter cringes when we change her diaper with something cold or room temperature. I do the bulk of my diaper changes near a sink with warm water, but back in the day, she was changed a lot in the bedroom and this was very important to keeping her calm during a diaper change. I don't like cold stuff on my lady bits, why would she?
2.BabyHawk Mei Tai Organic Baby Carrier, Black Floral Silhouette
I didn't know anything about babywearing before I took some classes at a birth center ( from my fabulous Doula.) We had no idea how important this was going to be for us. We wore our daughter quite a bit when she was an infant. She was fussy and wouldn't ever really sleep in a crib. She would always fall asleep in her Babyhawk. Even as a 2 year old she loves going "on back" with daddy. If you haven't tried one of these- do it. You will not be sorry! Ours goes to 40 pounds, so we have a long way to go.
3.HALO SleepSack 100% Cotton Wearable Blanket, Baby Blue, Large
When we first had the baby, she wouldn't really sleep anywhere but on us and in her car seat (not a suggested practice.) When we finally got her to sleep in a cosleeper around 6 months or so, it was always cold in the house. Putting on footed jammies and such is nice, but we found that another layer was needed. We found that these sleep sacks were the ticket. It is a wearable blanket. No risk of suffocating or tangling in blankets with these. Easy to get in and out of, and soft. They come in summer weights and winter weights and loads of colors. We had several and loved them!
What are some things that you were told were unneeded that ended up saving your sanity?